5 Lies About Sex

Enough with the myths that sabotage your confidence. The definitive guide to performance, pleasure, and what they really expect from you.

In the locker room, among friends, or in the darkest corners of the internet, there's no shortage of "sex experts." The problem? Most of the information floating around is urban legend, half-truths, or projections taken from adult films, serving only one purpose: to undermine your confidence and mess with your performance.

The truth is, incredible sex isn't about porn star skills or the physical attributes of a Greek god. It's about connection, confidence, and most importantly, quality information.

It's time to hit delete on some misconceptions that are sabotaging your sex life. We've prepared a quick, no-nonsense guide to debunk the 5 biggest myths and put you truly in control of the game.

Myth 1: "Size is the most important thing."

The Truth: This is the father of all myths and the biggest source of male anxiety. The reality, confirmed by countless studies and, more importantly, by them, is that most women do not consider penis size the primary factor for pleasure. The vagina is most sensitive in its outer third. Skill, rhythm, creativity in foreplay, and connection with your partner are infinitely more important than a few extra inches.

The Bella da Semana Tip: Focus on the "whole package." Use your mouth, your hands, your fingers. Learn to read her body language. A man who knows how to use all his "tools" with confidence is far more impressive than a guy who relies on just one.

Myth 2: "Women take longer to climax, so men have to last for hours."

The Truth: Yes, many women may need more time or different stimulation to reach orgasm, but that doesn't mean the act of penetration needs to last an eternity. Female orgasm is much more connected to direct clitoral stimulation. The pressure to "last longer" creates anxiety, which is the biggest enemy of an erection.

The Bella da Semana Tip: Shift your focus from "duration" to "mission." The mission is to give pleasure. Whether that happens before, during, or after penetration doesn't matter. Use oral sex and manual stimulation as a central part of the event, not just as a warm-up.

Myth 3: "If she didn't climax during penetration, the sex was bad."

The Truth: Another completely misguided idea. The vast majority of women (around 70-80%) do not achieve orgasm solely through penetration. They need direct clitoral stimulation. Thinking that her orgasm is your only metric of success during penetration is a recipe for mutual frustration.

The Bella da Semana Tip: Communicate. Ask. "Do you like it this way?" or "What do you want me to do now?" Showing that you're genuinely interested in her pleasure is more exciting than any silent sexual marathon.

Myth 4: "Pornography is a good instruction manual."

The Truth: Comparing real sex to pornography is like comparing a gourmet dinner to a fast-food commercial. Pornography is a script, a staged performance made for visual entertainment, not for reality. The acrobatic positions, unrealistic duration, and lack of intimacy create expectations that don't apply to a real relationship.

The Bella da Semana Tip: Use pornography, if you want, as a source of fantasy, not education. The best instruction manual for sex with your partner is her. Pay attention to her reactions, her sounds, and what she communicates.

Myth 5: "A real man is always ready for sex."

The Truth: Libido isn't a faucet you can just turn on and off. Stress, fatigue, worries about work or money, and even diet directly affect male sexual desire. It's perfectly normal not to be in the mood all the time. Forcing it or feeling guilty about it only makes the situation worse.

The Bella da Semana Tip: Take care of the machine. Sleep well, eat better, exercise, and manage your stress. A healthy mind and body are the greatest aphrodisiacs there are. And if the desire isn't there, invest in other forms of intimacy. A hug, a massage, or a good conversation also build connection.

Debunking these myths is the first step toward a healthier, more pleasurable, and above all, real sex life. Confidence doesn't come from what you think you should be, but from who you are. And a confident man is unbeatable.